A Real Princess Has Grace

April 17, 2012

Yesterday A number of years ago, I thought of myself as a princess. No I’m not delusional. I didn’t ACTUALLY think I was a princess (out loud). I liked to spend time daydreaming about what my life could be like if I weren’t stuck in the situation that I was in.

Usually I was feeling depressed and alone or broke and self-loathing. When I was feeling those things, I would do 1 of any 3 different things (and sometimes, probably all 3). I would either (1) eat junk food, (2) shop or (3) dream of a different life.

Afterwards I would feel 1 of 3 things, either (1) disgusting because I was full, (2) guilty for spending money I didn’t have or (3) depressed because I couldn’t change my life.

I never once felt grateful.

Not one time when I was really low and feeling pitiful did I take the time to look at what I have in my life.

It wasn’t often during my particularly dark days of debt (can we call it the DDD?) was I able to truly look at the positive parts of my life and express gratitude.

I started out writing this post about a dream I have to win the trip to the Great Barrier Reef that ProBlogger is giving away. I wanted to talk about my dream of seeing the world. I wanted to share about how the top four lines on my bucket list would be crossed off with just this trip alone. But as I was typing, something else came to my mind, the word “gratitude.”

I have spent so much of my life being sad over my lot in life, feeding the emotions that developed due to self pity that I haven’t really taken the time to realize what I do that is wonderful.

I have taught this to my boys but I haven’t heard it in my own heart. So many times when others have complimented me, I have responded with “Thank you but…” I have taken a brief moment of positivity and flipped it over into something negative.

I’ve been doing this flip flop my entire life.

Finding Grace in a Sea of Pity

In recent years, I have worked diligently to not turn compliments into something negative. I have not always succeeded but I have been trying. The other day when a fellow grad student noticed my (now over) 20 pound weight loss, instead of replying with “I have so much more to go,” I simply said “thank you, I have been working hard.” I kept that moment positive and when I walked away, I was feeling good rather than feeling negative because I still have over 50 pounds to lose.

In my financial life, I have always taken a negative moment and flipped it into something positive using credit. When the person I was interested in during college was seen with a younger, better looking girl, I went shopping for new clothes. I didn’t do this consciously, but it happened, a lot. I could have thought of something positive about myself, like “I’m not the girl for him (back then it was still “him’s”) but someday I’ll be THE girl for someone else.”

Today I am choosing to find gratitude in the negative.

From here on out, when a negative situation presents itself, I am going to consciously find a moment of grace and gratitude. And when I find that thought, I am going to write it down.

I want to start with my first one now.

04/17/2012 – I am so lucky to be in a position to go to Australia, should I win the contest being offer at ProBlogger. I am lucky that even if I don’t win it, I will still be going on an amazing vacation those very same days. I am lucky that no matter what I do, there is a week in June that I am going to have the time of my life.

If it’s not I who goes to Australia, then I hope the 10 that do will have the time of their lives. I can’t wait to read all about their trips.

I am so grateful to the person that has a bigger heart than anyone I know and who has helped make some of my dreams come true.

Your turn, take something negative that has happened recently and put a positive spin on it. Write it down and read it regularly. I am going to do this every day and reread it regularly. (Those of you who were at FinCon last year, I’m literally off to grab my awesome green journal, courtesy of Ramit and I’m going to use it is as my Gratitude Journal. Now you can picture it!)


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4 Responses to A Real Princess Has Grace

  1. John @ Married (with Debt) on April 18, 2012 at 12:17 pm

    Yesterday I was in the shower getting ready for a rough day of work. Instead of dreading going to work, I thought “the next time I’m in this shower it will be Wednesday, and the work week will be half over.” It worked!
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  2. Andi @ MealPlanRescue
    on April 19, 2012 at 12:38 am

    When I read your post I started crying. When my husband was a baby he had to have major surgery. They sliced him from hip bone to hip bone and he still has a very large scar and some lingering effects. If it weren’t for the Ronald McDonald house his mother would not have been able to be there and care for him. He wouldn’t have been able to be at the special hospital he needed to save his life. I’m grateful to the Ronald McDonald house because, in a sense, they helped give me my husband. Thank you so much for supporting such a wonderful organization. Gratitude is something that once you focus on, comes back in unexpected ways.
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  3. Christa on May 3, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    I love that your boys give to the Ronald McDonald House. I volunteered there during college, and the house will always have a special place in my heart. I think when my baby is old enough to grasp giving that RMH will be a great place to give.



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