Maintaining a Support System When Life Gets Rough

March 24, 2010

I’m reminded today of a song we use to sing in church. I can remember standing in church looking up at my mom as she sang the words and thinking her voice was so pretty. The song, “Eagles Wings” was one of my favorites back then. The lyrics that always stay in my mind are: ”And He will raise you up on eagle’s wings, Bear you on the breath of dawn, Make you to shine like the sun, And hold you in the palm of His Hand.”
I am no longer a religous person and I’m taking a great deal of liberty with the song but it made me think about my support system. It made me consider those who “raise me up” and “make [me] shine like the sun.”

Who is there to support you? Is someone helping to “make you shine like the sun?” A support system is very important when you are embarking on a journey of any type. Everyone should have someone or, hopefully a group of someones to be there for you.

I have unfortunately lost many great friendships over the years due to life and my inability to keep the friendship going. I understand that life goes on and sometimes friendships just dissipate. It is the natural course of life. It’s important to make sure you fill those voids with new and equally great friends along the way. I miss many of those wonderful friends who are no longer in my life on a regular basis. I think about them regularly and wish I could have been a better friend to them.

I do, however have a great group of supportive friends spread around the world thanks to  (and  ). Whenever I’m frustrated or depressed or just feeling “meh,” I know I can turn to any of these individuals and be “raised up.” They don’t complain about all the bitching that I do. They don’t turn their ears off to me. They are simply there, whenever I need them to be and lately that’s been a lot. I love every last one of them for their hearts and their souls. I am forever greatful for each and every one of the individuals who help keep my head just above the water in this struggle.

The strangers, the ones who I have never met but who have followed my mini-blog on twitter have also been there to “raise me up.” Just today I complained a bit, I was/am having a rough day due to some of my own stupidity and took to my Twitter Blog to vent for a few minutes. The number of strangers who passed along some wonderfully positive thoughts truly touched me. I am so very lucky and honored to have followers who respect me enough to focus on the good. The few moments they take to respond to my tweets help me to “shine like the sun.”

Thank you, to each and everyone of you who listens to me rant. Thank you to those who send me little messages just saying you are thinking of me. Thank you to those of you who call me up and lend me an ear to vent to. Thank you to those who have helped in other ways or have said that they would help if they could. It all means so very much to me!

And to those who have slipped from my life:

Emily K., Heather P., Jen A., Dana F-C., Tony B., Jamie J., Ratna P., everyone at TV, I miss you. I’m sorry for not being a better friend, sorry for you and for me.

I love you all,

I also blog at A Five Star Life. I write about anything that comes to mind but try to focus on finding the good in daily life.


5 Responses to Maintaining a Support System When Life Gets Rough

  1. Melly on March 24, 2010 at 2:53 pm

    At great reputational risk, I quote Dionne Warwick,
    "That's what friends are for…in good times and bad times, I'll be on your side forever more."

    Love ya, BB – hang in there.


  2. collinatedsue on March 24, 2010 at 6:09 pm

    I've been thinking about this for the last hour. I have NO support system at all.


  3. Jamie on March 24, 2010 at 6:40 pm

    Lady this was nicely put! Love the new blog!


  4. Jenny on March 26, 2010 at 7:35 am

    Well said Jessica. I hope you consider me a "supporter"…Cuz I love ya cuz! btw…I now have that song in my head, but its a great one!


  5. Anonymous on April 2, 2010 at 9:02 am

    I have not slipped away I am always quietly on the sidelines watching and listening. Praying (yes praying)for you. I miss you and long to move our friendship into a new arena. We will have to figure a way to do that together. Love Ya Always – D



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